"Social Media or Real Life"

We have reduced the importance of quality relationship and time to virtual interactions and hearts on stories. As a young black man there are so many things aiming for your time and your life. You have the pressing mindset to support your family, to not make room to fulfill racial stereotypes, to somehow not be emotional but also be vulnerable, to be a man but not too manly or too feminine. There are so many rules and regulations that it’s honestly exhausting. But the answer is not social media. 

Social Media is the gateway for temporary fulfillment, which if you are not careful can be a false remedy for the fulfillment of your soul." Social media takes your time and gives nothing long lasting in return. Don’t get me wrong, I value who I’ve met online and the things I’ve learned. but when those things take the place of every day conversations, of face to face spaces. We have reduced what we really wanted (human interaction/desire) into an algorithm that makes us feel better when we don’t get what we think we deserve. 

We have allowed the culture to pervert our views on everything just in the name of having someone that agrees with us. We have literally exchanged free thought, social mobility and self actualization to get approval from people we don’t even half way like. The answer is displacing our unwillingness to be wrong, our unwillingness to be taught, our fear of being who we are in front of people, in real time, with honest conversation on not just who we are or what we are, but why we are. When we return to our primary purpose of what has brought us where we are and what inspires us to move onward in the context of every day interactions, we will stop feeling the need to be validated by media or the click of a button.This is because we will have defeated the fear of showing other people our brokenness, or our yearnings in the most raw way possible, in good old fashioned sit down heart to hearts.

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